I just read about what to Emma Forrester. What a sad ending to this woman’s life. Isn’t it easy to see that this ex wasn’t “mentally fit”? Couldn’t take no for an answer… Imagine just what he was like before they split up…? You see, what took me to this web site is the fact that I broke up with someone a year and a half ago. He was controlling, doubted every word I said, questioned everything I said, or did, and most of the time didn’t say or do. Everytime I wanted to put an end to the dating, he could have violent crying spells and he would have suicidal tendencies. He knew which buttons to push. I lost a brother to suicide, and my former husband committed suicide years ago when he realized his rebound relationship was backfiring aginst him. We had children, whom I raised alone. They were between 9 – 12 years old. All this to say that this ex-”boyfriend” whom I dated on and off for 8 months, has been stalking me, has made threats, harrassed my family, followed me when I
I’d come home from work, boxing me in between his car and some of his friend’s vehicles on highways, quit his job…to stalk me? Probably. (He was in good health…) Anyway, he’d show up at my job, was seen by my former co-workers until I quit a much loved job of 15 years. I figured, he’ll lose track of me. Wrong! I had a very public career.

Well, he is still following me, followed some of my family members right up to my sister-in law’s parents! He caused a scene on the street in front of the children.

Well, I found a new job I was such a mess that I had trouble concentrating, that I was subsenquently fired! I’m in my mid-forties, am without a job, live in fear, though I try to do my everyday thing.

Last I heard, just yesterday evening was that he went out of his way, a forty minute drive away from his place, to park his vehicle at one of my father’s relatives driveway, while they were out! (I take it he must have followed my father there at one point!) My father’s cousin had to wait for him to get out of their driveway so they could get in and park their car. They didn’t know who this guy was.

I’m at my wit’s end.

I made numerous complaints, from the beginning (2 years ago) to police and it’s only recently that I have been taken seriously, by a Sargent who thought it was about time something be done. I had witnesses from the beginning….

There’s a warrant for his arrest. Police showed up at his place days ago and he wasn’t there. Result? A family member called him to tell him the police were looking for him. He’s been getting worst ever since. I had been hiding quite abit, and because he lost track of me I guess, he’s after my family. So, I have started to go grocery shopping again, in hope that while he has his sights on me, he’ll let go of my family,till he gets picked up.

If I backtrack, I can say he became violent after a few months of dating, moreso because I said I missed my family and wanted to have free time for myself, so I could see them. The answer I almost got was his fist, which I saw coming! I almost got it in the side of the head. I felt the breeze. That’s when I knew I had to do something.

Since the break-up, he has left notes on windshield of my car, gifts, text messaged me and made threats that he’s get biker gangs to kill me, threatened me in public when he thought no one was there.

He’s on Facebook, and also on very popular dating sites. (A friend of mine saw his profiles)

I have been with a very supportive man for almost a year now and he’s doesn’t know what to do to help me though this.I have reassured him that his being there for me when times are hard is all I need. He wants to confront him verbally should we run into him; I refuse. I am afraid my ex might cause him “harm”.

If you have read my post this far, thank you. I could keep writing about things that were done to me while I was seeing him, but I won’t. I intend to write my story,(book) if I come out of this alive.

I don’t want pity. All I want is for women to be very careful when they start dating. If there are red flags early on while dating a new man, listen to your gut if it’s talking to you. Don’t do like me and think that in time, he will trust you and change. He won’t.

It’s too late to kick myself.

May God bless all the Emma Forresters of this world, and may He watch over those whose lives, is a living hell.

Killing your wife for changing her FaceBook status is ridiculous. It makes me think there were other contributing factors.

@Richard, also half Frog here, I believe crimes of passion do not apply if there is a prior history of violence in the home; then it would be a domestic violence case. Either way, he killed her and shouldn’t get away with it.

I bet those old laws didn’t apply to women who committed ‘crimes of passion’ – and men are usually much more likely to cause jealous rages than women are.

Besides all of this, he had already made threats, and he was trashed.

You can blame social network media, jealousy or anything else… but the fact remains that normal human beings do not beat their exes to death when relationships end.

Wayne Forrester was found by police sitting outside of the apartment in Feb 2008. He freely confessed killing his wife in a fit of jealous rage.

“The French penal code in those days [until 1970] included a love-triangle provision that was a vestige of the Napoleonic era. It absolved from punishment any man who committed homicide after finding his wife in bed with another man.”

It seems clear that this was a crime of passion. No matter what laws we enact or what opinions we hold, crimes of passion will continue to be committed when a partner feels aggrieved by the actions of their spouse. We can’t regulate human emotions with laws nor can we change human nature.

We are what we are and sometimes we can be brutal, especially in love and war.

Maybe changing her status was a way to boost herself, many people do that sort of this after a relationship ends, as it symbolises their need for change. Or maybe it was a final act of defiance, who knows.

He was not the rational type it seems, and heavy drinking and cocaine-fueled rage wouldn’t have helped the situation at all.

P.S. @Richard, your last comments on “do women mourn less than men at the end of a relationship?” and “undue haste” were a bit off in this case…

There is a big difference between a women simply ending a relationship and moving on to another dude, and a women leaving a ‘volatile’ marriage, and being beaten to death for making some of declaration of her marriage’s end.

As for ‘undue haste’ – if she hadn’t changed her status, he would have found another reason to kill her, and he was obviously unbalanced in the first place.

I hope the person was caught and dealt with!